Dater's Handbook

Being a single girl approaching 30 wasn’t the way I imagined life would be. Growing up, although I never openly communicated my dreams of my fairy tale love to anyone, I always imagined myself with a loving guy. This guy was also tall, good looking, rich, has a good body, is possessive and drives really well. I am not sure why driving was a criteria, but it was a very important one.

In my early 20s, most of my criterion remained the same, but I wanted a guy who isn’t possessive and is financially stable. I will soon come to realise the pros and cons of that. You get someone who is loyal (plus point) and stable (finance is never an issue) but also someone who is boring. Let’s have a picnic in summer! No, I have to work. Let’s go on a holiday! No, I have to work. Let’s do this! No, I have to work. Let’s do that! No, I have to work.

In my mid 20s, I thought it might be better to date someone who is fun and this would mean someone younger. Someone younger would always not have work and will be able to spend his time with me.  

Now that I am approaching the big three zero, I still haven’t decided what is best but this movie – The Dater’s Handbook, resonated with me. It suggested that fun guys are non-committal and the stable guys (not surprisingly, the stable guy was also portrayed as boring) are willing to commit. The girl in the movie decided to go for the safe option and go for the stable guy, but she soon realises that she is pretending to be someone else when she is with the stable guy.

I guess in life, it always comes down to taking risks. Always go with your gut feeling. It is life. There is no 100% right or wrong answer.

Take risks,

Halley